‘Why are you smiling?’ said Ram.
‘Nothing, I wonder how people use feelings and emotions in
mail’, I said. ‘So, what’s there to wonder in that?’ said Ram. ‘No, sometimes
it’s too much...I mean what’s great in writing a wiki article, I think it
deserves only good tag but Ben replying with great job,’ I explained. ‘Oh
strange... someone is appreciating your work and you are complaining and smiling
on that, really you are a saint,’ Ram said. ‘No... I am not complaining,
but...I mean...maybe it’s my first wiki article, so the reaction is more than
what I deserve, ‘I put my point. ‘OK...come let’s have a coffee break,’ Ram
said.
‘Ok...you said you have a blog and you write when you find
time,’ Ram said. ‘Yes,’ I said. ‘So what do you write, do you use emotions in
your writing?’ Ram said. ‘Yes, I use emotions pretty much,’ I replied back. ‘Ok...Do
you say, ’I love you mom’ when you call your mom?’ Ram said. ‘No, why do I need
to say, it’s again show-off for me...I mean why do I need to say ‘I love you’
to my mom in every call...yes I say ‘Pranam’ in every call,’ I said. ‘OK...so
you say ‘Pranam’ as this is in our culture...every time you say it ,‘ Ram said.
‘Yes...twice in a call, I start call with ‘Pranam’ only and end with this as
well,’ I said. ‘OK...good you show respect but you don’t show your love to
mom...don’t you think someone can take it as a show-off, ‘Ram said with a
smile. ‘Why do you need to show your respect in every phone call...does it
matter if you say ‘Pranam’ only once or not at all...Do you think your mother
will stop loving you if you won’t say Pranam?’ Ram continued.
I took a coffee sip and smiled, as I did not have any
answers for these questions.
‘Do you drink pepsi?’ Ram said.
‘What...why pepsi here,’ I said.
‘I am coming to the point,’ Ram said.
‘Not very often...I prefer to have fruit juice, you know how
much health conscious I am,’ I replied with smile. ‘OK...that’s fine...but what
do you think, why there are so many advertisements in TV, sign boards all for these
drinks?’ Ram said. ‘It’s marketing, they want to sell products so they have to
do all this,’ I replied. ‘Yes...you are right, it’s marketing...do you know the
science behind marketing?’ Ram said. ‘Science...no,’ I said. ‘Ok...just to add
little much It’s because a human mind can’t remember things after certain time,
I don’t know exact figure...so they have to show pepsi on tv, on sign boards
every time, just to register that pepsi word in our mind,’ Ram said.
‘I am telling this pepsi story, just to give a practical
answer...saying ‘I love you’ on every call is not show off, it’s just we want
to make sure to register ourselves in other person’s mind that I really care
for you and I love you,’ Ram said.
I was just listening
the theory.
‘Try this... call
your mom and don’t say ‘Pranam’ for some time, it’s possible that your mom will
say someday, may be just to tease you, that you are not saying Pranam,’ Ram
continued. ‘You know you respect your mother but you have to remind every time,
our mind is so complex, it tends to forget very soon’, Ram smiled finally after
watching my expressions.
‘I will take one more coffee, I love these kinds of discussions,’
I smiled again.
‘I hope now you are clear and next time you will say ‘I love
you’ to your mom,’ Ram said.
‘Yes, feelings are meant to express, I am trying to see the
world with my own window... it’s not show-off, it’s just the ways of expressing
feelings...In west people are very straight to show their feelings and emotions and I feel, I am very shy in doing that and I use them in
my blogs’, I said.
‘Yes, it’s not only you...I think it’s common here. When we
don’t do something which someone is doing quite frequently, we say its show-off’,
Ram said. ‘Yes, I need to change my perception on this emotions thing...really
it’s Science...but I am bit worried, how my mom will react on ‘I love you’...hahaha,’
I smiled.
'Your mom will
say...wow that’s great...hahahahaha,’ Ram said.
hahahaha...that's actually great and I am no more a saint...hahahaha...
